I’m surprised that I haven’t written this, but now is a good a time as any to write about behavior patterns shown both in television and replicated in real life that irritate me very much.
Perhaps I was too in love with the music of Frozen, and general message of women taking action. Maybe I wanted to love Doctor Who badly enough to just place my issues under the umbrella of sexism in Steven Moffat’s writing (no, women don’t exist to fancy a male protagonist, nor do they act solely as supports to male story-lines in the real world), but the parts of Anna and Clara that bother me most (there’s also a character on The Big Bang Theory who I don’t know because I don’t often watch the show) are actually with the creation of the “adorkable” female. The premise of a female who pursues interests that she likes has many good traits, along with the fact that it creates another option and an example of an intelligent female that young girls can see on television. Those are all good things. However, in the case of Clara, even though we see her role as an educator, she drops everything whenever the Doctor comes. Her role is no longer an educator, but the educated. She scampers around to the will of the Doctor.
The role of Anna is a more complicated one. It’s only in the very beginning that Anna is put into the role of a not entirely poised and confident female dependent on love. I love that she talks about being anxious before an event, and I love that it all feels genuine, I also love that she becomes strong capable, and independent, but the Anna in “love is an open door,” is uncomfortable and not in control of her actions, including that she’s clumsy and Hans physically guides her and that’s the type of adorkable I hate, so the fact that she moves beyond it really should be applauded.
Public Proposals (to anything, but mostly Prom)
My mom has a theory loud obvious proposals originates from “The Bachelor,” but I’ve never seen it, so I don’t know. What I have seen are people asking one another to prom— making sure the whole school notices. I’ve helped, and the people have seemed happy, but I don’t like the process. Often, it’s the boy asking the girl, though I can think of one instance where it was reversed. In all of these cases, the person asked is essentially powerless to say no in front of everyone because they’ll look unkind and create public embarrassment. The boldest answer as a rejection I ever heard was “can I think about it,” and that was all over the school by the next day with everyone feeling bad toward both parties involved.
Personally, I don’t feel too bad for people if someone wishes not to go on a date with them; it’s happened to me. It’s not the end of the world. It’s disappointing, but I would much rather have them say no because that means they get a choice, and being upfront about whether they want to go on a date or not creates better situations for everyone involved. Prom is little more than a date with a tux and a dress, or two dresses, or two tuxes wrapped up in high school sentimentality. Every person involved deserves the right to say “no, sorry” without feeling pressure to accept with the knowledge that they just would say “no,” later or “can I think about it,” which also isn’t the “no,” they have every right to say.
A caveat: another pattern I noticed in some of the more public proposals is that it was an upperclassmen asking someone younger, they didn’t know particularly well, who might not have the opportunity to go to prom without being asked— additionally underclassmen have less social power on average then upperclassmen, which further weakens their ability to say no, which just bothers me.
A public marriage proposal is typically comprised of a longer relationship, and larger understand of the other person’s preferences and intentions, so receiving a “no” is less likely to happen, but it’s still harder for someone to refuse agreement if they wanted to.
Also, I have a deep person detestation of all things public and notice-bringing, so I am more likely to find these things problematic because I have no positive feelings towards them as they stand.
I know I don’t propose any solutions, but I think that starting to discuss these issues of things widely not considered problematic is a good start
[There is a] general principle of internet language these days that the more overwhelmed with emotions you are, the less sensical your sentence structure gets, which I’ve described elsewhere as “stylized verbal incoherence mirroring emotional incoherence” and which leads us to expressions like “feels,” “I can’t even/I’ve lost the ability to can,” and “because reasons.”
Contrast this with first-generation internet language, demonstrated by LOLcat or 1337speak, and in general characterized by abbreviations containing numbers and single letters, often in caps (C U L8R), smilies containing noses, and words containing deliberate misspellings.
We’ve now moved on: broadly speaking, second-generation internet language plays with grammar instead of spelling. If you’re a doomsayer, the innovative syntax is one more thing to throw up your hands about, but compared to a decade or two ago, the spelling has gotten shockingly conventional.
In this sense, doge really is the next generation of LOLcat, in terms of a pet-based snapshot of a certain era in internet language. We’ve kept the idea that animals speak like an exaggerated version of an internet-savvy human, but as our definitions of what it means to be a human on the internet have changed, so too have the voices that we give our animals. Wow.
This is my favourite part, if I do say so myself. See also the summary doge macro.
SMILIES WITH NOSES FOREVER :-] but seriously. in my final year of college, 2007, I wrote a paper for my historical linguistics class about the evolution of internet chat-speak, specifically the use of rebus and pictogram, and it’s crazy how much things have changed. to me, this current practice shows a generation that is more comfortable with a keyboard, who doesn’t find typing “see you later” a hardship, and who can type “THIS FUCKING I CAN’T I CANNOT EVEN GOODBYE FOREVER GOODBYE I’M DONE” with as much ease as “omfg rofl”
and i’m sure unlimited texts, high speeds and larger data allowances, and the ubiquity of internet access has also contributed. packing more emotion into less space isn’t a priority anymore.